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New Mom Essentials That Aren’t Breastfeeding-Related

12 Awesome New Mom Essentials for Moms Who Are Not Breastfeeding. Check it out at Thriverguide.com!

My son turned one a few weeks ago, and it’s gotten me thinking about my first few months postpartum and what was really helpful for me. I’ve already written about baby essentials, so I thought I’d talk about new mom essentials today. Everything on this list will be specifically not breastfeeding-related, as I’m planning a whole future post about breastfeeding essentials. I’m hoping stuff on this list will be super practical and a little unconventional, as there are enough posts out there already about the benefits of padsicles and Bamboobies (neither of which I used). So enjoy, and I hope this helps some of you out!

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9 Parenting Secrets I Learned in My First Year of Being a Mom

9 parenting secrets from my first year of motherhood

It seems insane to me that my son is a year old. Look at him! So sweet! So big! So full of wonder!

ThriverBabe with his giant birthday balloons

I wrote on Facebook that this year has simultaneously felt like the longest and shortest of my life. There’s a lot I’ve learned about myself and about parenting and motherhood so far, and I thought I’d share some of those secrets today:

 

9 parenting secrets I learned in my first year of motherhood.

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Maundy Thursday: When the Spirit and the Flesh Are Both Weak

Maundy Thursday: The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak. Photo by Rafferty Fazakerly.
Photo by Rafferty Fazakerly

Last night was Maundy Thursday, where Christians remember the night Jesus gave a new commandment to love one another, the night he broke bread and passed a common cup to his disciples, the night he went to a garden to pray and asked his disciples to stay awake with him and watch—even for one hour—and they did not. The night he was betrayed and arrested and handed over to death.

Family Day at the Huntington Library and Gardens

I spent most of the day yesterday at the Huntington Library and Gardens with my mother and sister and a friend. We wandered through the gardens all afternoon, ate lunch at the cafe, showed ThriverBabe around the children’s garden, and generally just enjoyed the sunshine and cool breezes and green spaces.

We hit LA rush hour traffic on the way back, and I watched the minutes tick by, stealing away the one- to two-hour buffer I’d planned to have between getting back home and packing up to go to church at 7. I really didn’t want to go to church. I wasn’t in the mood for Maundy Thursday.

I felt a sudden connection to the disciples in the garden.

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Fab Friday: Essential Baby Gear for 6 Months and Under

I know what you’re thinking—another baby gear list? Yeah, that’s exactly what the internet needs. I know, I know, but give me a chance! My mission here at Thriver Guide is to help find ways to make life easier, more beautiful, and more joyful for those of us with chronic or mental illness, so to that end, this list of baby essentials is something I made with spoonie parents in mind.

Without further ado, here’s this week’s Fab Friday roundup:

These baby essentials saved my sanity when my baby was under six months old!

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6 Reasons Why You Need a Breast Pump

Me: Hey you! Are you currently a pregnant person?
You: ………..yes?
Me: You should make sure you get a breast pump!
You: Uhhhh, even if I plan to exclusively breastfeed and want to forgo bottles?
Me: Get yourself a breast pump!
You: I feel a little uncomfortable discussing my breastfeeding choices with a stranger—
Me: *stomping feet and punching the air* Get! A! BREAST PUMP!!!
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I don’t actually yell at people on the street (just on the internet). But you can bet I’d give this same advice to any and all of my pregnant friends. Get a pump, any pump, although if you’re a spoonie like me, definitely go for an electric one if you have the option (old “arthritic hands” over here can’t reliably operate a manual one!). At the time of writing this post, all insured pregnant people are entitled to a free breast pump as a result of Obamacare provisions. The type of pump might vary from insurer to insurer, but I know a lot of people who have been eligible to receive a double electric pump of high quality for free through their insurance. All I needed personally was a prescription from my doctor and a list of approved vendors from my insurance company, and then I picked out my pump and ordered it online and had it shipped to me for free. It was actually really painless. I have the Medela Pump In Style Advanced Breast Pump Starter Set, and I have zero complaints. It’s pretty cushy, actually. I use it 3-4 times per week now that I’m back at work part-time, and it has been great. I haven’t even had to replace any parts yet, and my son is nine months old.

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Why should you get a breast pump? I know someone reading this is going to be all like, “women have gotten along just fine for thousands of years without breast pumps.” You know what else we’ve gotten along fine without for thousands of years? Cars, airplanes, grocery stores, antibiotics, the internet. I’m going to guess that you use at least some of those things and don’t find the argument convincing that you should do without them just because they were invented in the last two centuries. So let’s just agree not to be Luddites, here…

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